This brief guide will tell you what to do when your Vietnamese girlfriend asks for money.
Every guy that has a relationships with Vietnamese women will have to deal with a few of them asking to “borrow” money. Those you that used the tips in my excellent Tinder guide for Vietnam may run into this problem. Vietnamese girls (or a girlfriend) asking for money is definitely a good problem. It means the girls are somewhat interested in you.
It might seem odd to us westerners. However, the average salary in Vietnam for a college graduate is around $300 per month. They view us as extremely rich men that can just hand out free money whenever we want. The money factor definitely explains why the women here seem obsessed with foreigners.
However, I don’t know about you, but I’m one stingy man. I don’t loan out money to my friends or family. I’m definitely not loaning money to a Vietnamese girl.
How to filter out money chasers?
I haven’t had much issue with Vietnamese girls asking for money compared to other expats, but that’s probably because I’m 24 and the girls don’t view me as a provider. Guys older than 40 might get more money requests.
The best way to filter girls is to ask. Don’t be rude about it.
“Can I ask a rude question?”
“Lots of Asia girls want foreigner for money. Do you date foreigner for money?”
I’m not going to delude myself into thinking that a woman will share her true intentions with me. Vietnamese girls want to date foreigners because they (rightly) view us as rich. We are extremely rich compared to the average Vietnamese guy in their dating pool.
This method just weeds out a few of the more blatant gold diggers. I’m talking about girls that show up and want money after the first meeting or Vietnamese girls that want an allowance.
What to do when your Vietnamese girlfriend asks for money?
There doesn’t seem to be much shame in asking for money from foreigners. Or maybe there is and the girls don’t care because their friends and family don’t know.
Anyway, my best advice is to just ignore the request. Sometimes the girl will pester you with another request, but usually they get the hint and leave you alone. For what it’s worth, I’ve never had a girl stop seeing me after I refused to give her money. I view this as the girl asking because it is an EV+ move.
Note: It doesn’t even have to be your Vietnamese girlfriend. It can just be a girl that you occasionally fuck. She will almost always ask for money if you know her long enough.
But her mom is sick…
Her mom isn’t sick. Some of the girls will give you a pity story about how their mom or dad has fallen ill.
The water buffalo died/got sick and they need a new one.
Insert sad story on why she needs money.
Not much more needs to be said on this subject. If you fall for this, then I have a bridge to sell you.
She doesn’t want to take the money
Some of these girls are more clever than others. They hit you with the sad story about how their shoes are bad or their motorbike broke and they need to take the bus.
You might decide to offer money to help this damsel in distress (lol), but she staunchly refuses to take your hard earned money. After much begging on your part, she reluctantly takes the money and thanks you.
Yeahhhhhh, you just got played. She wanted to take the money along. However, she didn’t want to look like a gold digger. She flipped the script to make you offer her money. She then took it a step further and made you beg to give her money.
Don’t fall for this crap. Definitely don’t marry a woman that pulls a move like that on you. She’ll run circles around you until you’re out of money and sucking dick on Bui Vien.
Vietnamese girls asking for money might catch you off guard the first time it happens. However, asking for money happens often and you’ll get used to it once you date enough women. I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Just ignore the request and move on. She’ll either next you or keep coming back for more. Just don’t get too close to a Vietnamese woman that asks for money too soon.