Vietnamese Girlfriend Asking for Money

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This brief guide will tell you what to do when your Vietnamese girlfriend asks for money.

Every guy that has a relationships with Vietnamese women will have to deal with a few of them asking to “borrow” money. Those you that used the tips in my excellent Tinder guide for Vietnam may run into this problem. Vietnamese girls (or a girlfriend) asking for money is definitely a good problem. It means the girls are somewhat interested in you.

It might seem odd to us westerners. However, the average salary in Vietnam for a college graduate is around $300 per month. They view us as extremely rich men that can just hand out free money whenever we want. The money factor definitely explains why the women here seem obsessed with foreigners.

However, I don’t know about you, but I’m one stingy man. I don’t loan out money to my friends or family. I’m definitely not loaning money to a Vietnamese girl.

How to filter out money chasers?

I haven’t had much issue with Vietnamese girls asking for money compared to other expats, but that’s probably because I’m 24 and the girls don’t view me as a provider. Guys older than 40 might get more money requests.

The best way to filter girls is to ask. Don’t be rude about it.

“Can I ask a rude question?”

“Lots of Asia girls want foreigner for money. Do you date foreigner for money?”

I’m not going to delude myself into thinking that a woman will share her true intentions with me. Vietnamese girls want to date foreigners because they (rightly) view us as rich. We are extremely rich compared to the average Vietnamese guy in their dating pool.

This method just weeds out a few of the more blatant gold diggers. I’m talking about girls that show up and want money after the first meeting or Vietnamese girls that want an allowance.

What to do when your Vietnamese girlfriend asks for money?


There doesn’t seem to be much shame in asking for money from foreigners. Or maybe there is and the girls don’t care because their friends and family don’t know.

Anyway, my best advice is to just ignore the request. Sometimes the girl will pester you with another request, but usually they get the hint and leave you alone. For what it’s worth, I’ve never had a girl stop seeing me after I refused to give her money. I view this as the girl asking because it is an EV+ move.

Note: It doesn’t even have to be your Vietnamese girlfriend. It can just be a girl that you occasionally fuck. She will almost always ask for money if you know her long enough.

But her mom is sick…

Her mom isn’t sick. Some of the girls will give you a pity story about how their mom or dad has fallen ill.


The water buffalo died/got sick and they need a new one.


Insert sad story on why she needs money.


Not much more needs to be said on this subject. If you fall for this, then I have a bridge to sell you.

She doesn’t want to take the money

Some of these girls are more clever than others. They hit you with the sad story about how their shoes are bad or their motorbike broke and they need to take the bus.

You might decide to offer money to help this damsel in distress (lol), but she staunchly refuses to take your hard earned money. After much begging on your part, she reluctantly takes the money and thanks you.

Yeahhhhhh, you just got played. She wanted to take the money along. However, she didn’t want to look like a gold digger. She flipped the script to make you offer her money. She then took it a step further and made you beg to give her money.

Don’t fall for this crap. Definitely don’t marry a woman that pulls a move like that on you. She’ll run circles around you until you’re out of money and sucking dick on Bui Vien.

Final Thoughts

Vietnamese girls asking for money might catch you off guard the first time it happens. However, asking for money happens often and you’ll get used to it once you date enough women. I wouldn’t worry about it too much.

Just ignore the request and move on. She’ll either next you or keep coming back for more. Just don’t get too close to a Vietnamese woman that asks for money too soon.


  1. You’re probably just an ugly loser. If you couldn’t get girls at home, girls don’t want you here either, unless you pay. I’ve been in Asia 10 years, never gave a time to bitch. Never been asked. Had a serious Viet girlfriend who worked in a cafe for about $150 a month. When her phone broke she actually refused to let me pay to fix it. Yes it happens. But I had no problem scooping fuck meat back home. Here is no different. It’s only different for guys who are poor and ugly back home who come to the third world where they’re slightly less poor (but still ugly).

    1. She was only with you because of the money. She could easily have a broke Viet boyfriend that shares the same culture/language as her.

      Girls that ask for money immediately are thinking short-term. Girls that never ask are thinking green card or just looking for a one night stand.

      You’ve lived here 10 years… probably time to pack it up. I see you’re in Cambodia now. LOL. That’s where all the loser expats go.

      1. You got it right Neo.

        It’s all about short and long term game, not only for Viet women but for all Asian women.

        Asian women are feminine and look for masculine men that can provide. That is natural because a woman want to bread but she needs a man to support the effort.

        Obviously, you want a woman with strong values and real intentions, not a gold digger that want an easy life.

        Keep up the good work bro.

        1. All women in general tbh. I’ve changed quite a bit since writing this post though. I’d prefer my long-term GF or wife not work and do all the housework, keep me happy, and take care of the kids (only reason I would ever get married).

          Thanks for the kind words.

    2. I also call bullshit on girls never asking you for money (maybe you have a small sample size). Every single expat I know has had a girl ask for money. Taxi money counts too.

      Whether the expat pays determines if they’re a loser or not.

  2. I don’t mind SEA girls looking to men for money that much, better that than them one day becoming like western chicks – chasing a career, ‘I don’t need a man’, etc. and losing their femininity. As long as it’s small amounts <$100, not asking for a new iphone or boob job. And then give them a bit less than they ask for to keep them from seeing you as a sucker ($20-50 I'm ok with) AND get something out of it. Ideally have them come over to give you great sex when they get their $30-40. 'Oh if I was your boyfriend I could help you out with cash…' Or if I'm far away, I have them send me nudes.

    1. That’s a good point with not wanting them to chase careers and lose their femininity. Didn’t think of that.

      I’m still a cheap fucker though. I’ll pay for her Grab (like $1 each way), food with me, and that’s about it.

    2. That’s ok at your age, 24 right, she should see more value in you as a potential boyfriend, being close to her age. I was cheap too, when I moved to SE Asia at 23. Girls should be asking an older guy for money, and throwing themselves at the younger guys, if they have any sense, because that young guy could earn a lot of money when he’s older, and she won’t look like a golddigger if her husband is close to her age.

      1. Yeah, I wish I just had girls throwing themselves at me lol.

        They always think I’m a playboy because I’m such a young foreigner. Still do better than older guys, but being young has drawbacks too.

  3. I m from India, been there twice. For me (shy) very hard to get good girls in my country but good success here in Saigon. Girls never asked for money from me and yes they have insisted on paying many time (small bills only). I usually let them pay small bills and insist on paying others( knowing its difficult for them) but if like a girl and been intimate with her few times, I usually take them on a trip with me to either nearby country or someplace where I will not find girls easily. if they ask for money, I take a U-turn from them. I think I will start following Neo’s advice, just ignore the request and be like it never happened. If she comes back – yaa, if not- ok.

  4. Yeah, in my 50’s and it’s called “support” – So, do you care to support me for my rent this month? I’ve slung some free in SGN but almost always there’s some kind of tip involved. Unfortunately, when I was in my 30’s and 40’s VN was only just emerging with MFN Status….so time catches up with us all, and when you want to catch up on lost time, you pay for it. I’m not fat, bald, or ugly, I’m just not 27….or 35….or 42…

  5. My french friend claim he is dating a nice vietnamese working in singapore. Say she is sweet and fuck and suck well but decent girl and definatly not eying his money. He is in late 40s and balding and huge beer belly. Lol

    1. I’m here for not much longer. The funny part is that I may know a lot of you Vietnamese girls commenting here.

      Neo could be anyone 🙂

      very successful in driving traffic to your website, congratulations!

      Someone gets it. This site is 95% trolling.

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