Ultimate Tinder Guide – Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam

Tinder Match Ho Chi Minh City Vietnam

Some of the Tinder talent in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam.

Do you want to learn how to bang Asian sluts on Tinder?

Then you came to the right place.

Imagine what it would be like to have a different Asian slut bouncing on your rod every night…?

Look, Ho Chi Minh City is one of the easiest cities to bang Asian girls on Tinder (if you’re white). I get about 10 matches each swipe session and my profile kind of sucks. Some of these girls even initiate the meetup and first contact.

This guide will teach you my step by step method to getting these thots to meet you and get you laid on Tinder in Vietnam.

Step 1: Be White and speak English

Asian girls love white guys.  Can’t deny that.

However, don’t worry non-white readers…

If you can speak English, then you should still be OK.  You can speak enough English if you’ve made it this far.

All guys over here need to speak some level of English (or Vietnamese) and everyone just assumes all foreigners speak some English. Remember, you have to be able to at least COMMUNICATE with the girl to make it work.

Google Translate dates aren’t fun.

Tinder Matches

I unmatch anyone that doesn’t respond.

Step 2: Have Good Pictures

The best profile pictures for matching with Vietnamese girls are ones that make it look like you are an expat.  That means wearing a nice shirt, properly smiling, and not looking like a degenerate begpacker loser.

DO: Wear a nice dress shirt.

DO: Make your skin look whiter (very important!)

DO: Make your eyes visible.

DON’T: Look trashy or ghetto in your main picture.  Keep it for the other pictures, but try to avoid it.

DON’T: Have a beard in your picture. Seriously, Asian girls hate beards on guys. Like all women; they’ll be fine with it after a while. However, you will get less matches if you have a beard since Tinder is based on appearances and not personality.

Step 3: Write a good bio

Less is more.  Keep it simple and just mention that you’re an expat living in HCMC. A lot of girls don’t read it anyway.

Don’t mention nationality unless you’re a darker skinned “American” or “European.”  You want to make the girls guess because masculine men never give a direct answer to a question.  We stay mysterious.

Women love masculine men.

If they ask about your job, then tell them the industry and that’s it.  Again, staying mysterious.

Don’t say you don’t work either. Just say you work online or ignore the question.

Not working is bad. Don’t be a NEET.

Check out my article: “How Masculine Men View Women

Note for Backpackers

If you are a backpacker, then you can still meet girls. Just mention you are on vacation and looking to get some drinks. Some will meet and some will not meet.

Just part of the game. The girls know what they’re getting into.

Step 4: Swipe Right

Personally, I’m very picky with my swipes and it works.  The Tinder algorithm favors pickier users.

Focus on girls the same age, or younger, than yourself. You’ll have very limited success with girls older than you on Tinder. I wrote an article on meeting Vietnamese cougars if you’re into that, check it out.

However, older girls that match with younger guys will be much thirstier in my experience.

Step 5: Message Them

Message them. Don’t try and be witty, funny, or a douchebag like you have to do in America/Europe.  The girls usually speak terrible English and you will only confuse them.  Further, the girls are much nicer than American girls. Their response will 99% of the time be “Good thks. And you?”, which you respond “Good.”

Then message the girl something about what she does in Saigon or if she is a student.  Doesn’t really matter.  Just keep it to the interview style questions.  Let this mindless banter go on for a few texts.  Once you get bored with that ask, “Let’s meet. What is your Zalo number?”

99% of the time the girl will give it to you.  Sometimes they ignore you after giving it though.

Just part of the game.

Add her on Zalo.  They usually accept your request and you can begin talking to them on it.

I recommend setting up a date immediately. They get a lot of matches on Tinder.

You can still talk, but get the date setup.

Keep your standard texting rules. You can use the occasional emoticon with an Asian girl without losing value. Don’t do any double texting or asking needy questions.

IMPORTANT: Make sure to gently tease the girl.

Asking Tinder girl for WhatsApp

Just ask for WhatsApp/Zalo. Note the timestamps.

 

asking Tinder girl for Zalo

Sometimes you can just go direct with asking for the Zalo.

Step 6: Initiate the Meetup

These girls are “busy” and work a lot of hours.  Tell her, “Let’s meet for coffee at [café by your apartment]. Is Tuesday at 7PM good for you?”

Alternatively, you can just invite them out for drinks. Most of these girls don’t drink and will have a curfew though.

Drinks is almost a 100% that you’re getting it.

The girl will usually say yes to coffee if you weren’t a total goober and messed it up. Sometimes they say no because they are busy fucking other guys they met on Tinder, working (aka: playing on their phone), doing girl stuff,  hanging out with their boyfriend, or doing girl stuff.

thirsty tinder girl invites me over

Sometimes they initiate the meetup. Note: This girl was Asian, but not Vietnamese.

Tinder date invites herself to my apartment

Vietnamese girl on Tinder invites herself to my apartment.

Vietnamese girl from Tinder asks for date

Tinder girl asks if I want to get coffee with her. Of course I do 😉

Step 7: What To Do At The Date

Look, standard date rules apply here. Trust me, this isn’t that difficult. I even went on a coffee date drunk one time.

  • Don’t lean in.

Don’t look or act needy in general. Leaning in makes you look super needy. You do get a little leeway with acting needy with Asian girls. However, you still should not act too needy.

I can’t really explain this. It’s one of those things that you just know.

  • Lead the girl.

Don’t be one of those guys that has the girl walk in front and choose the table.

Or says, “What do you want to do?”

You’re a man.

Choose the venue, pick the table, order your drink, choose your food, and lead her. Girls want to be led.

  • Dress nice.

A pair of nice jeans, a polo shirt, and some dress boots is fine. A nice pair of long pants, a polo shirt, and dress shoes  also works fine.

Here’s an article about dressing nice in Southeast Asia.

Honestly, you can wear shorts if you really want and probably be fine if you’re young and attractive (and white). I personally don’t recommend it though.

  • Make eye contact.

This doesn’t need much explanation.

  • Talk Slow

Some of these girls speak awful English. You should talk slow so they can understand you.

  • Don’t Be Boring

A lot of guys are super boring. Save the nerding out about quantum physics for your dude friends.

Your date conversation should be simple and fun. Celebrities, funny stories, and other stuff like that.

You want the girl to laugh; not stare at her phone.

  • Don’t act like you haven’t touched a girl in 8 months, even if that’s the case.

It goes back to not being needy. Calm, cool, and collected.

  • Make sure to touch her forearm or shoulder during your conversation.

Make sure to make physical contact from the start. You want her to be comfortable with you touching her. Don’t do anything super #MeToo like grabbing her ass or masturbating into a potted plant in front of her.

  • Tease her

Gently tease the girl. Don’t be a dick about it, but if she does something stupid, then call her out on it with a smile on your face. These girls aren’t American girls, so you don’t need to treat them like complete garbage.

  • Pay for her half

Look, I know that us western guys are used to our dates paying for their half. Thank feminism for that.

You will struggle to find a feminist girl in Vietnam, so they will expect you to pay for everything. Plus, a good job here pays like $300/month. If you follow my money advice, then you should make plenty of money to afford $2 coffee for you and her.

Don’t be a cheap goober like some of the guys; pay for the date. It should cost under $2 for a coffee.

Step 8: Pulling To Your Apartment

asian girl in bikini tinder

Assuming the first date went well and you sense good chemistry, invite her back to your apartment.

If you’re a shy boi and scared, then read my dating guide for shy guys.

Can this be true? Will she go back on the first date?

These girls are using Tinder and meeting up with people for the same reason that everyone uses Tinder, so YES it can happen! You’ll also develop a good slut radar the longer you do this.

Now, don’t ask her to “see a movie in my apartment” or any other crap like that.

Just say, “Lets go.”

“Where we go?”

You, “My apartment. It is not far.”

Sometimes the girl will freak out and run away.  Sometimes the girl will come back to your apartment. Typically girls over 25 will come back to your apartment on the first date. Hell, you can just invite those girls straight to your room and skip the date.

If you have built up enough interest, then this method will work more than it doesn’t.

Don’t worry if she rejects you on the first attempt to pull to your apartment. You can generally invite them straight to your apartment for the second date.

Step 9: What to Do At Your Apartment (Big Secret Revealed!)

Most of you should know what to do when you get a girl to your apartment, but some of you freeze up. I’ve been there myself (long time ago). Here’s a good ti…

tinder girl lingerie asia

If she goes back to your apartment, then she wants some sausage!

Ok. Here’s the big secret:

Don’t immediately make a move: Some guys make the first move the instant the door closes, which makes you look desperate. I like to ignore the girl a bit and act standoffish.

Trust me, girls will think “why hasn’t he made a move? Does he think I’m ugly?” and start freaking out.

Women can’t handle rejection very well.

More importantly, she’ll be more receptive when you make the move because she won’t know her next opportunity. Your penis and sperm are a scarce resource.

Don’t lower its value and give away your valuable sperm for free.

Make women work for it.

Mindset

Mindset is the most important part of getting laid.  You can’t show any neediness with girls and expect to have sex. Remember, your sperm is a scarce (valuable) resource. Thankfully, in Asia not being needy is extremely easy because Asian girls want to meet foreigners.

All you need to remember… if you fail with one girl there are always 20 more girls on Tinder. And even more at the café.  And even more at the park that want to “practice English.”

The choice is yours. I prefer online dating (not Tinder) because it’s easier to stay productive.  Approaching single girls at cafes works just as well though.  Just ask them, “Do you speak English?”  If a Vietnamese girls speaks good English, then she must have some sort of interest in meeting/interacting with foreigners, right?  Maybe I’ll write a guide on approaching girls in cafes.

Final Thoughts

To sum up, it’s extremely simple to get laid in Ho Chi Minh City with Tinder. It does take time though.

As long as you’re meeting girls and putting sex on the table, then you will get laid.

It’s much easier than you think…

41 Comments

  1. Hi,
    I’m a business woman travelling to HCMC for a week and also want to get laid.
    Got any good suggestions for ‘expat’ women?

    1. For Tinder?

      Just swipe right on all the white guys, they should invite you to drinks, and they should invite themselves to your somewhat nice hotel room…

      At least that’s what I would do if I matched with a business woman on vacation.

      1. A: She lives in Australia.
        B: She’s like 40 years old and a mom.
        C: You can do better.
        D: Don’t fucking tell women that you can’t find a women to date. That’s not attractive.

  2. Hey man, no offense but you must be a pretty good looking guy. Your advice is not applicable to everyone! AT ALL. That being said any suggestions??

    1. Sign up for Vietnam Cupid (use that link). You could sign up today and have 3 dates lined up on Sunday and maybe a girl to take to a bar on Saturday.

      That’s not an exaggeration. Tinder works, but it takes a lot more time.

  3. Wasn’t sure if my wisdom was posted successfully. Was wondering if there’s any district easier than others? And what district you in neo?

    1. Just stick to the popular expat districts (D1, D3, D10, D7, D4 (Rivergate), Binh Thanh and D2) and you’ll be fine. Lots of girls in those districts speak English and are looking for foreigners. You want to avoid the far out stuff like D12 and Tan Phu.

      The absolute best is probably D3 because it’s so central and pulls from the other districts.

  4. I’ve read that you are not allowed Vietnam women over in your hotel, as they want to prevent prostitution. How do you get around that?

    1. That’s only an issue with the 5 star hotels (or so I hear) and in the countryside.

      You can ask before booking to be safe. Some hotels might want to see her ID card or charge an overnight fee, but I’ve not had either issue.

    2. Another option is just finding something on AirBNB (in D1) that doesn’t have a security guard or front desk. There are plenty of options and most should run from 500k-1 million (21USD – 44USD)

  5. I came across your blog while googling “Tinder Vietnam” as I had no idea it existed. And this cracks me up! Lol! Does this actually work?!

    1. Hell yes this works lol. I’m more of a Vietnam Cupid guy (less competition), but Tinder still works great. Lots of hoes.

      It’s funny getting together with friends and comparing matches. Most of the expats will match with the same 80% of Viet girls.

  6. Nice tips, you are right you need to play it cool for a bit when you get back to your place. If you jump right on them they may leave if not comfortable yet.

  7. Ah i’ve met that Venus girl lol. Nothing like her photos..

    Very true that the girls tend to get ‘passed around’ by the expats here. I know a French guy who recommended a girl to 4 of his friends on Tinder (a feature there apparently) and she banged all 4 guys over the course of 2 months.

  8. I have 0 matches currently lol… I am a decent looking guy (I thought), teacher in Haiphong city in the north. Is it harder to meet girls up here in general than it is in HCMC? I even put on a picture of me with my dog, still absolutely nothing. Is there another dating app that’s more popular up here? Or am I just ugly as fuck?

    1. Any city outside of Hanoi or HCMC is going to be hard… even a big city like Haiphong. The % of girls that know English just isn’t that high.

      I was going to recommend Vietnam Cupid, BUT there are literally 20 girls in the 18-25 range with “Some English” in HP that have signed in within the past 2 days… LOL. Those girls are looking for foreigners and there aren’t that many, so they would definitely meet you. Hooking up, or even having sex, with a girl in the north is a whole another story.

    1. Agreed! You are only perpetuating rape culture. Literally the way you think is that of a rapist. I highly doubt you will ever find a female that likes you for anything more jan your dick. You clearly have a terrible putlook on woman and are fucked up in the head. I also highly doubt you have even gotten laid. You definitely seem like one of those guys who fabricates.

  9. Neo , don’t writing about Vietnamese girls on tinder like that and don’t put their potos like that on here . It’s not respect u know that . Wuold be bad effecting to her living . Friends , family , works ….

  10. If you are in my age range (50+) and come for a few days only, what would you recommend? I would have thought Tinder is more clearly for having some fun together and the women who meet you on tinder have that in mind, so less time lost with multiple dates? Any other recommendation if you just want some fun but don’t have much time?

    1. Honestly, I don’t know for your situation. Here’s some general advice:

      Getting Tinder Premium and lining up some nighttime drinking dates BEFORE you come is a good bet. If you can get them out at night, then you should be able to close. MIGHT be harder since you don’t live here. You will get asked that and a lot of them don’t like to deal with tourists. You’ll probably match with a lot of 30+ y/o women if you aren’t fat. Having one meet you at the airport and go with you to the hotel is also possible. Just make sure she doesn’t take her bike to the airport.

      Vietnam Cupid is also good and way more efficient than Tinder. Just get a 1 month sub a week before you go and setup some drinking dates and find one to meet you at the airport. Also probably your best bet if you want younger women (what guy doesn’t?) since girls interested in older guys hang out there.

      If all else fails, then you can get a BJ on Bui Vien for like 600k. Vietnamese prostitutes that you meet in bars/clubs are awful. Haven’t heard of anyone having a good experience with one.

      1. Thanks. What about those in these freelancer parks? How does that actually work, – do they bike you back to your hotel!? Or do they go to their own place?
        I did get a Viet Cupid subscription through your link. But wow, really hard to find many who can string a proper sentence together in English, let alone a conversation! Feels like you have to learn Vietnamese to get somewhere… But early days…

        1. The ones in the public parks are usually, not always, ladyboys and/or junkies that will rob you.

          I personally wouldn’t hop on the bike of some random female prostitute that I met. In fact, some foreigner got his phone stolen last week by two ladyboys doing that trick in 23/9 Park. An off duty cop saw it and arrested them, but that’s rare.

          Freelancers in the club? You just take them to your hotel or an hourly hotel. Lots of hourly hotels all over HCMC.

          Benny’s is a decent option for P2P blowjobs. Actually, there are lots of hot toc places (BJ bars) in HCMC for ~400k a pop. Just Google “Bj bar hcmc” or something like that.

          —-
          Yeah, English levels are generally low though there are enough that speak decent English that you should be good. It’s certainly not the Philippines (or even Thailand) level of English, but things are normally smooth after some initial confusion/awkwardness since the girls are eager to make us happy. Hell, I’ve been on dates and banged chicks that spoke 0 English. Language barrier is not as big of an impediment as you’d probably think for a short term fling. Relationship is a different story.

          Thanks for using the link 🙂

  11. Do these rules of extremly desire of American/European guy apply to Russian? I’m attractive guy 25 years old from Russia who speaks English fairly enough, but I found interesting thing: girls on VietnamCupid mostly look for Americans according to their preferences. Once I setup my account I’ve set Russia as my country and got only 3 views and 0 messages withing 12 hours. Changed my country to USA and voila… 20 messages and plenty of views. Am I wrong and got “bad hours” or Vietnamese seriously interested only in American?

    I’m as you said backpacker coming to Vietnam for 2 weeks and just interested in new experience with fresh Asian girl. What is the best way to hook up? Paid account on VietnamCupid or Tinder app right on the place?

    1. Both are fine. Tinder is free, so that’s the default option.

      Are you a white Russian (blonde, blue eyes)? American and other rich Euros are obviously better, but Russians shouldn’t have an issue once you message them. I know an Indian guy that does fine, so I couldn’t imagine a Russian having an issue.

  12. Hi, so I am im Saigon, good looking, have tinder profile for 3 days already, swiped right lile 500 times and no match. While on baddoo i match with most. I am really new to tinder, does it make a difference if i am running on basic unpaid membership in tinder? Or do I just suck in tinder because girls look there for different types of guys then in badoo?

    1. You should get a match after 3 days, but it’s not as good as it used to be. I think Tinder updated the algorithm to make unpaid worse. Or this guide killed it.

      Also, how old are you and what age are you swiping on?

  13. I am 32 and I search in range of 18 and 40. Another thing is, I swiped right everything, including pictures of food, flowers, or panda 😁️. And I have just read that Tinder algorythm doesnt like it which totally makes sense. So once i get fresh supply i will try more sophisticatef swiping. In the meantime I have plenty of girls to work on and meet from badoo. Another thing that crossed my mind, maybe i already chat in badoo with many of these dream girls that i spotted in tinder, just in badoo they wear skirt and some cute pollower while in tinder they only wear panties, use some filter to make their ass look huge and stuff like this. Btw. many of the girls here are very insecure and.. emotional but beautiful girls come with a lot of estrogen in them that makes them high all the time

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