Sex is Never Free

Sup readers. Long time without a meaningful article. Been working on some other projects.

This one is a little bit different than previous ones. It’s actually the polar opposite of the whole theme of this site. 

Before you click off, let me explain. 

Nothing is Free

The other day I was shooting the breeze with some random expat, I’m back in Vietnam by the way, and he made a rather bizarre statement. 

“Only losers pay for sex in Asia, and I’m not a loser!” he proclaimed with some stupid look on his face… as if convincing some slut off Tinder to have sex with him was some major life accomplishment worth bragging about. But I had one question for him.

“How much is your time worth?”

He didn’t really know how to respond. I think he expected me to be in awe of his sexual conquests. You could practically see his brain short circuiting thinking of a response. 

For those that don’t know, your time isn’t free. Time is the second scarcest commodity on the planet, behind adrenochrome, since you can’t make more of it. Why do you think rich people buy private jets and hire secretaries? 

The higher-IQ readers know where I’m going with this.

The Problem With ‘Free’ Sex

We all know how the sex pipeline works. You meet some slut, sweet talk her, have sex, and never see her again. It’s usually a temporary relationship for most guys. 

Some men repeat this process hundreds of times. It’s not really complicated once you figure out how women work. And trust me, women are incredibly stupid

Anyway, the main problem with this ‘free’ sex is that it takes a bunch of time and energy. I once calculated the amount of time it took me to bang one woman…

6 hours

That factored in swiping on Tinder, messaging other girls on Tinder, catfish dates, setting up the date, going on the date, inviting her over, waiting for her to actually show up (always late), and then getting her to leave. 

That’s a lot of time and energy!

I value my time at a measly $25/hour, which means that banging one woman cost me a not-measly $150.

How’s that for ‘free’ sex?

The Other Big Problem

The other major problem with ‘free’ sex is that you have to put women on a pedestal. It’s marginally better than being a white knight, but you’re still clowning around for her with the hope of putting your wee-wee in her goo-goo hole.

Yuck!

Don’t even get me started on going on a date with a woman – super boring. Sure, the date itself might be fun, but a conversation with a woman is never interesting or about important stuff. It’s always a shallow conversation about nothing. 

Read my article: 8 Questions Every Vietnamese Girl Asks on a Date.

That’s just how women are. If you disagree, then whatever.

Sex Isn’t All That Fun

The other problem is that sex really isn’t all that fun. Sure, it’s fun if you haven’t had it in awhile or you’re 16, but it gets boring after a few times. I’d rather do fun stuff like go boar hunting or read insane conspiracy theories.

All you’re doing during sex is sticking your wee-wee in a wethole. It’s basically masturbation with a, dumber and more annoying, fleshlight. 

Once you find it boring, you’ll realize the hoops you have to jump through to have 15 minutes of ‘free’ sex aren’t really worth it. 

Why Guys Do This

I’ll admit, I fell into this ‘free’ sex trap for awhile. Most younger guys in the western world fall into this trap. 

Older guys don’t usually fall for it due to a decreased sex drive.

My theory:

The large amount of female teachers and single moms have trained men to seek approval from females. Men seek this approval in a variety of ways. 

Some men become white knights or male feminists. 

Other men seek out sex with a massive amount of women to gain their sexual approval. Some other stuff could be buying a sports car, getting a tattoo, or buying a motorcycle.

We know this is the case because most guys don’t only want sex. If they did, then they would just pay a prostitute. What guys really want is that sweet female approval that you don’t get with a prostitute.

In other words, they want a woman to affirm their value.

The Solution

The only solution that I know is either having so much sex that you get bored with it OR finding a more interesting hobby. A steady long term girlfriend would work as well.

You could also find a wife and have 10 kids. That’s certainly the more natural solution. 

Personally, that’s what I want to do.

14 Comments

  1. Long time reader and commenter checking in from northern Europe. My thoughts exactly. Said perfectly, as usual.

    I’ve been on a dry streak since VN and still text daily with my VN gf because of this very phenomenon. Girls here aren’t worth the energy, mental effort or sacrifice of my values to put them on the pedestal in order to seduce them. Almost feel embarrassed to say that I’m done collecting notches and have been seriously considering wifing up this gf of mine and starting a family. In fact, I’ve noticed how a lot of successful men step of their game and kick their success chase into high gear once they’ve gotten hitched. There’s a lot to be said for starting your own little clan and being the chief of that clan. Seems like it brings the best out of man’s DNA in that situation. Finding the right girl in the age of inflated SMVs and social media is the key though.

    “I’d rather do fun stuff like go boar hunting or read insane conspiracy theories.” One thing you forgot to mention is spending time with other like-minded, success-oriented males (no female friends for this guy).

    Oh, and I’ll be in VN around Xmas. Would love to catch up then.

    1. In fact, I’ve noticed how a lot of successful men step of their game and kick their success chase into high gear once they’ve gotten hitched. There’s a lot to be said for starting your own little clan and being the chief of that clan. Seems like it brings the best out of man’s DNA in that situation. Finding the right girl in the age of inflated SMVs and social media is the key though.

      On point, and something that I forgot to mention.

      Oh, and I’ll be in VN around Xmas. Would love to catch up then.

      sweet. I’ll probably be here. hit me up when you’re here.

  2. Hey man, stumbled on your blog a few days ago. Interesting to see this new blog post, forward evolution perhaps. I just decided to go steady with someone, and while sure there is some feelings of missing out on so much variety out there, it sure does make life simpler and frees up a lot of energy that would usually be spent on chasing tail.

    P.S. Fellow American here…… You about that Q-Anon? 😉

    1. it sure does make life simpler and frees up a lot of energy that would usually be spent on chasing tail.

      heck yeah.

      You about that Q-Anon? 😉

      no lol – he has CIA written all over him. my favorite is Know More News with Adam Green

  3. Interesting post and can’t say I haven’t thought about it… the question or the problem, is how can you be sure you made the right choice(right choice doesn’t mean the best woman but more like most compatible with you given there is a multitude of variables involved) … you can think you’ve made the right choice but somebody else could be out there that is better, and making a commitment is different.

    1. you can think you’ve made the right choice but somebody else could be out there that is better, and making a commitment is different.

      You just gotta go with one that meets your criteria; no one is gonna be perfect. You definitely don’t want to fall into the feminine line-of-thought (ex. “is she really the best I can get?”).

      Women will do everything, and I mean everything, you want if you’re dominant enough anyway. Don’t settle with one that was raised by a single mom though.

  4. Hey Neo, I’m from US and live in Philippines. I’ve found it okay to get a simple girl from the province and teach her how to cook, she already does laundry by hand and cleans too. I have no interest in wasting time chasing pussy or wearing condoms. I’m taking up kiteboarding, fishing, surfing, road trips on motorbike. We do hobbies together.

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