We all know Vietnamese women are better than American women. That is obvious to anyone that has lived in Vietnam for longer than a day. However, what may not be so obvious is how to find a Vietnamese girlfriend.
Finding a Vietnamese girlfriend is one of the easiest things you can do while living in Vietnam. You can probably find a girlfriend within 3 days of landing in Saigon. Almost every Vietnamese girl you interact with will want to be your girlfriend.
However, finding a good Vietnamese girlfriend is pretty damn hard. Things that make a good Vietnamese girlfriend good include the usual things like cooking, not being an obvious gold digger, and speaking English.
Here is everything you need to know about dating Vietnamese girls. It includes how to find the girls, how to make them your girlfriend, and how to have a happy relationship.
Go Where The Good Girls Hangout
Sorry guys, you aren’t going to find a good girl working at a massage parlor giving happy endings or at a girly bar. I once got in an argument with an American expat at a girly bar because I said to him “None of the girls working here [girly bar] are good girls.” He was genuinely offended at my statement and rejected my premise. What a complete loser.
I later found out that his ex-girlfriend worked at a girly bar while they dated.
So yes, I have to include this seemingly obvious fact.
Any girl that makes her money by sitting in a guy’s lap isn’t a good girl by any definition of the word “good.” If I told any of the actual good girls I know that they should work in a girly bar, then they would probably cry…
And then work in a girly bar because I’m such a pimp.
Where to find good girls?
Now that we’ve gone over where NOT to meet a good girl. Lets go over where we can find a good Vietnamese girl in Ho Chi Minh City:
- Vietnam Cupid
I think this is one of the better places to find a genuinely good girl. You can find any kind of Vietnamese girl you want on the site, which I wrote a blog post about (Vietnam Cupid guide). It’s like an Asian buffet, but instead of eggrolls and fried rice you have every category of girl:
You have the sluts, virgins, gold diggers, borderline prostitutes, girls looking for English lessons, and married girls looking for some fun.
However, you do have to especially watch out for gold diggers on this website. I’ll write a full guide on how to screen for gold diggers in the future, but for now this article on girls asking for money should have you covered.
- 23/9 Park
You can sit down at 23/9 Park (or Hoan Kiem Lake in Hanoi) and girls will approach you to practice English. If they’re hot, then agree to help them. Tell them you live in Saigon and ask them if they have a boyfriend. Sounds weird… It isn’t, this is a fairly normal question the girls ask so it’s easy to do the “No. And you?” line. Even if it is weird… who cares?
If they say they don’t have a boyfriend (she still might), then ask for a coffee date and get their Zalo number. You can actually find a decent amount of good girls with this method. The only issue you might run into is that if she can approach you, then she can approach other foreigners.
- The Café
This one actually requires you to do some work in real life. I like to work in cafes and the cafes here like to hire cute 18-22 year old girls with tight little bubble butts to distract me from getting any work done.
The waitresses will recognize you after two or three times because foreigners stick out like a sore thumb. Sometimes they approach to “practice English”, but normally they just linger around and expect you to start a conversation.
Just ask what their name is and go from there.
After you’ve talked for like 30 seconds just tell them that you think they’re cute and want to know them better. Ask for their Zalo and setup a coffee date.
Approaching a girl in real life sounds nerve wracking because you’re probably a girly-man that only uses Tinder. Just don’t worry about what she thinks because she’s a girl and who cares lol.
For real, the girls working at the café make like $200/month. They view Westerner men as super wealthy and would love to date one.
She’ll also view you asking her out on a date as something from a romance movie. Rich foreigner meets a poor plain Jane girl working at a café.
Girls love that.
Making Her Your Girlfriend
The first step to making a Vietnamese girl your girlfriend is to fuck five different girls.
Yes. This is super critical.
It might be the most important step in this whole process. You don’t want to make a girl your girlfriend because you’re lonely and want human interaction. If you still want your original girl after the five girls, then she’s the one for you.
Anyway, don’t bother asking her to be your GF. Just wait for her to ask.
She might ask after one day or two weeks, but usually it will happen fairly fast. Also, you should know after the first meeting or two if the girl is girlfriend material or not (Does she cook? Does she suck dick?). Don’t do any of this “I need to know her for months” before turning her into a girlfriend. That’s bullshit…
unless you’re telling her that so you can keep boinking her for those months. Then feel free to keep doing that without having her officially be your girlfriend. All the perks of sex without having to commit to being her boyfriend.
Sounds like a deal to me.
How to Flirt with a Vietnamese Girl
Flirting with these girls is piss easy. In fact, you don’t need to play the whole cat and mouse game of acting disinterested and making her chase you like you do in the United States. I mean, you still do. Just not nearly as much.
You can literally just tell the girl that she is cute. Just don’t overdo it with the neediness, but telling her that she’s cute won’t make her instantly resent you like it would back home.
Don’t do anything cringey like show up with flowers for the first date.
Dating Culture in Vietnam
Dating culture here is a little different than dating culture in America. First, things move fast in Vietnam.
You can land at the airport, find a Vietnamese girlfriend, and then a Vietnamese wife in a span of a week. I’m not even joking. Things here move FAST.
Keep that in mind.
There also isn’t so much casual dating. These girls have one thing on their mind and that is marriage. If you say you don’t want marriage or kids, then you can expect your dating results to diminish. Just how it is over here.
Don’t get me wrong. There are plenty of girls that are sluts.
Well there you have it. That’s how you find a Vietnamese girlfriend.
I’m telling you people, this isn’t that hard. If you’re an incel that lives in the West and are considering taking the easy way out, then please just hop over to Southeast Asia and give life one more shot. You’ll probably like it.
The hardest part is finding a good girl that won’t take all your money and force you to suck dicks on Bui Vien for 100k Dong. I personally think the foreigners end up in that situation are guys without much experience with women. These clueless foreigners basically fuck and marry the first woman that shows over the top interest in them…
usually a gold digger.
I hope this guide can help you find a girlfriend.