Reading Motivational Stuff Is a Waste of Time

This is a decent article that a fan asked me to publish. He didn’t include a backlink in it. No edits have been made to the article. -Neo

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Have you ever seen motivational stuff?

Of course you’ve seen it. Everyone has that one perpetually broke friend that always posts motivational stuff on Facebook or Instagram.

It probably gets a ton of likes and comments from other broke losers too.

Suspiciously enough, none of them ever appear to do anything significant with their lives. The closest they get is joining some dumb MLM like Amway.

Well, that entire side of the internet is a total joke. Here’s a random motivational video that I pulled off of YouTube:

That video is complete garbage.

This article will explain why motivational stuff is a waste of time. I’m also going to tell you how to stop needing external motivation. And no, you won’t get a sales pitch at the end of the article.

Just pure facts.

Why it’s a waste of time?

The people that watch the video linked above are the same people that never do anything. Period.

This is because watching that video releases dopamine and other fancy brain stuff that makes you think you accomplished something. And the people that watch that stuff are too scared to take a risk and start something challenging.

So they watch videos of other people doing it and trick themselves into thinking it’s them.

You know that feeling you get after lifting heavy weight?

That same feeling gets released after watching a motivational video. All those cool quotes, fancy music, and video clips of people accomplishing things make you feel rewarded… by design.

Are you seeing the problem?

The motivational video rewards you when you haven’t actually done anything.

It’s basically the exact same as watching porn, which I don’t recommend. All watching; no doing.

Complete garbage.

They All Say The Same Thing

The other problem with this… All these motivational videos say the exact same thing:

  • Start.
  • Work hard.

That’s it. That’s literally the only insight you’ll get from these videos.

You don’t need a video, quote, or a $5000 seminar to tell you that.

How To Not Need External Motivation

Everyone needs motivation, I get it. We all have self-doubt at some point.

That is perfectly normal.

However, you don’t need external motivation. That just means you’re looking for validation from your peers, which is lame. It also means you’re a puppet to someone else since your emotional state relies on them.

Not a good situation.

Anyway, here’s the guide on internally motivating yourself.

Step 1: Avoid the urge

I’m just going to assume that you’re a person addicted to watching motivational videos or reading motivational quotes. The first step is to avoid the urge to do that stuff.

Again, that stuff doesn’t do anything for you. You really have to internalize that all that crap is porn for wannabes.

A good technique is to leave comments like, “Motivational videos are dumb” if you do watch a motivational video.

People are going to get pissed. That’s ok.

Just don’t respond to their comments. Try not to get too emotional about the responses either. Lots of them are going to be nasty.

I’m sorry that there isn’t a better technique. You just have to exhibit some willpower when doing this.

And honestly, if you can not resist the urge to stop wasting time on useless stuff, then you aren’t going to make it.

Step 2: Do something productive

Do something else when you have that urge to watch motivational videos. 100% of the people watching motivational videos have never taken a risk in their life, so don’t be like that.

If you don’t have anything to do, then find something to do.

Step 2a: “But I don’t have anything to do!!!”

Shutup. Everyone has something better to do than watch dumb motivational videos because just about everything is better than motivational videos.

If you honestly can’t think of something to do, then make a list of what you’re already good at doing. This list should have at least 10 items on it, but I recommend as many as possible.

Trust me, almost everyone is good at something. You’ll think of something.

They can be anything too. Businesses are great, and masculine hobbies are ok.

Businesses are better since they make money.

Step 3: Focus on that stuff

Spend all your time focusing on that thing you discovered that you like. It should be something that you enjoy doing. Like the kind of stuff that you enjoy doing in your free time. Not something that feels tedious like a job.

Though it will have tough moments from time to time.

Step 4: Forget About Motivational Stuff

You’ll notice that you stop craving motivational stuff the more real work you complete.

Funny how that works.

Summary

Motivational stuff is bad. It’s basically porn. The best way to stop watching it is…

Stop watching it.

Fill your day with more productive activities. Those productive activities will give you real satisfaction in your brain AND your bank account.

The end.

8 Comments

  1. I watched shit like that for hours along side porn other useless stuff when I dropped out of university to pursue a freelancing career. It’s shame because I was and I am really fucking good at what I do but procrastination was a huge productivity killer. I was sitting at my pc for 16 hours a day yet I could only bill my clients 6-8 hours a day. What helped me to get rid of this behaviour:

    1.) Screen time tracker along with pomodoro technique. You will be disgusted by myself if you see how much time you actually wasted by consuming all this crap content.

    2.) Turning off router/pc immediately when work was done to not get soaked in by YouTubes recommendations algo. Just walk away from the PC and come back after 1 hour to do what you really want to do with your “free” internet time. Can be youtube, games, blogs whatever. Just make sure you strictly separate this time from productivity time and only do it after you have actually accomplished something.

    @Neo: So I finally arrived in HCMC.
    1.) How to manage all the tinder dates? Do you just turn them into fwb or go for new ones every time? Takes so much time to coordinate them. At least success is overwhelming for a 115kg slob with receding hairline like me. Even after filtering out the prostitutes.

    2.) Any idea why VietnamCupid doesn’t work seem to work at all for me, why tinder does? Mostly same (admittedly ugly) pictures and completed profile that at least should let them think I’m up for marriage after a few months of dating. Maybe too old/young (25yo)?. So far I only got the offer to impregnate a 35yo woman from Hanoi…

    3.) Ever had success trying to convince them to shave their pubics? They look at me like I murdered their children or something.

    1. I was sitting at my pc for 16 hours a day yet I could only bill my clients 6-8 hours a day. What helped me to get rid of this behaviour:

      Story of my life right here. Good suggestions too.

      1.) How to manage all the tinder dates? Do you just turn them into fwb or go for new ones every time? Takes so much time to coordinate them. At least success is overwhelming for a 115kg slob with receding hairline like me. Even after filtering out the prostitutes.

      I just find a fwb/gf type scenario. I don’t have the time/patience to deal with women and their BS. But I used to just meet new ones when I did.

      2.) Any idea why VietnamCupid doesn’t work seem to work at all for me, why tinder does? Mostly same (admittedly ugly) pictures and completed profile that at least should let them think I’m up for marriage after a few months of dating. Maybe too old/young (25yo)?. So far I only got the offer to impregnate a 35yo woman from Hanoi…

      You might be too young for Cupid since the girls are fairly serious – I’ve also sold a lot of subscriptions this year, so competition might be harder lol. The under 25 women on dating sites are definitely harder and (weirdly) uglier. You should get better pictures too.

      3.) Ever had success trying to convince them to shave their pubics? They look at me like I murdered their children or something.

      Yes. All the time. One time I trimmed her pubes in the shower.

      I prefer a bush nowadays, so it’s not a big deal. Shaved pubes look gross imo.

  2. I faced the same problems as a freelancer as well, once I lost work momentum one time it’s hard to build it back again … it can be doable gradually (just like you can’t go from lifting 50kg to 200kg in a single day), or, you have to work or you’ll starve.

    “How to manage all the tinder dates? Do you just turn them into fwb or go for new ones every time? Takes so much time to coordinate them” -> seems to me like a niche that needs CRM hahaha

  3. You’re laughing but at this very moment I’m working on a dating pipeline app in react-native. Basically what these guys did (https://www.pipedrive.com/en/blog/manage-your-dating-pipeline-with-the-pipedrive-tinder-integration) but better and free.

    But honestly, once im done with that, I’ll probably just delete the Tinder again anyways. Was a fun week but my dick is sore and I’ve only worked like 10 billable hours. I also hate these coffee dates. Freaking same boring questions from every girl and the deepest thing they have to say is their uneducated opinion about mainland china. And so many of them limit their bedroom game to imitating a fucking star fish and sucking my nipples (why the fuck do they all do this?). Rant over. I should get out and meet some quality expats, not day drinking english teachers.

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